Match energy given to you, or let it go

Something has been bugging me lately about communication and I’m going to try an experiment over the next while. Do you ever feel like you are always the one reaching out to certain people to keep conversations going? Like you’re the only one in certain relationships making all the effort? Some friends reach out daily…

It’s a Sex and the City kind of day

It’s Tuesday morning and I’m sitting here listening to what sounds like a 50 foot pressure washer outside my window. I’m sure isn’t. I can’t see what is making the racket. But I know I’m kind of whiny and cranky today but also happy – so feelings are confusing things at times. The large maple…

Chase away your demons

Summer is almost over yet the days are still extremely warm. The maple tree outside my balcony is shedding leaves already and there are a few on my balcony floor. That means I’ll have to clean it up in a few weeks. The weather will be hot all weekend and then cool off significantly come…

It isn’t personal….

When people say shit like “It isn’t personal” or “It’s me, not you.” That’s just a line they’re feeding you. They’re taking your pain, your trauma, YOUR feelings and making it about them. They’re actively avoiding dealing with the situation. They’ll never admit they were wrong in their actions. They’ll never apologize for hurting you….

Autumn is like practical magic

It’s hard to believe that August is here and summer is almost over. The year has flown by fast. It doesn’t seem like that long ago that I uprooted my life, left downtown, and moved back to the southside to be closer to my family. It also doesn’t seem like that long ago that my…

Self-loathing and cathartic release through writing

It’s Monday afternoon as I type this and today, I’m feeling a little muted and tired. I’ve been writing a lot this past week and am almost finished part three of my series. It’s getting to the fun part now. The hard parts of the trauma dumping have been written. Now I just write complete…

Still chasing for that feeling, was it worth it?

It’s Monday morning as I type this. Another snowy and dark morning here in Edmonton. I’ve been awake since before five am and am sipping a cup of coffee. It’s cold in my condo and I’ve got the fireplace going, listening to acoustic folk music and love songs. The past month has been a whirlwind…

Forgiveness and healing from childhood trauma (trigger warning)

The word forgiveness is defined as the process of forgiving, or being forgiven. But what does it mean exactly? What does that process look like? And more importantly, what’s the point of it? Forgiveness is accepting your decisions or your actions. Recognizing the trauma that hurt you or caused emotional damage. Learning to let go…

Finding love again after forty. Is it possible in today’s world?

It’s late as I sit down to write this post. It’s been an eventful couple of weeks and I haven’t written much in the blog. That’s being done on purpose. I’ve found that when I post daily, people don’t engage. If I post every few days, I’ll get more interaction. And so, I’m trying to…

Mindfulness vs. Mindlessness

This is a repost from 2020 – rewritten and updated This morning I decided to do a search for trending health topics to write about this week and came across this headline: Mindfulness vs. Mindlessness. Given my history working in addictions and mental health, I thought this would be a good topic to cover today….