On the drive home from work today, I thought about what I was going to write tonight. For a moment, I thought that maybe I shouldn’t publish anything at all – and just work on research for future article ideas.
But then I checked my email and saw that the article I provided a quote for was published today.
A couple of weeks ago, I was approached by a marketing firm to provide quotes on how writing about grief and loss can be helpful for others. I had a lot to say on the subject. My response was almost a full page long!
Normally when that happens, quotes are edited and cut down in size. But I’m really pleased to see that the author has captured everything I said in full. I just couldn’t be happier with this article.
I recommend reading the full article. Not just my story. It’s very touching.
The full article can be read here:
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“Once I hit that publish button, I felt this tremendous sense of empowerment.”
Jen writes about many areas of her personal life on Mostly Single, including dealing with loss. Her mum died in 2014 and she describes herself as being “overwhelmed with grief”. She told us: “I was plagued by nightmares that something bad had happened to my mother. The nightmares were supernatural of sort. I knew that they couldn’t be real. But they felt real. I was lost. Terrified. I hit a real low point with depression and grief. I was angry for a long time too at having lost my mother at such a young age. I couldn’t sleep, my health started suffering, the weight started piling on, I was a mess. I was also in an emotionally abusive relationship. Everything about my life seemed wrong.”
Jen created her first e-book When I Get to Heaven and has recently started writing a public blog after having spent many years previously jotting down her thoughts in a journal which she only shared with a few trusted friends. She said: “My friend Bev pushed me into writing. We had a long talk about death and grief during a sushi dinner one night back in 2017. She had lost family and she could see that I was still struggling with the loss of my mother.
“With the fear of offending the family, J.W. Christensen was born. I started writing some short stories, and then one day after a few glasses of wine, I finally wrote the story of my mother’s death. As I wrote the story, it was like I was experiencing the loss over again, but once I hit that publish button and put my e-book out there, I felt this tremendous sense of empowerment.
“I felt something else I hadn’t felt in a long time, relief, and maybe even a little happiness. I cried for about an hour after it was done. I sent it to a handful of friends and the book was well received. Even if it isn’t perfect, the book is very personal to me.”
We also asked Jen what advice she could give other fledgling bloggers: “Write your heart out. Write every day, write down everything you’re feeling and everything you’re experiencing. You don’t have to share it with anyone if you aren’t comfortable with it. Or you can share it with as many people as you want to, you have every right to use a pen name. It’s not uncommon for writers to adopt a pen name.
“Don’t ever be ashamed to put your feelings in writing. Keep a journal, keep a blog, record vlogs. Use whatever technology you feel comfortable using, and most importantly, don’t let anyone ever tell you “no”. Do this for you and you only. When I was doing research about how to start a blog and what to write about, one piece of advice stuck with me “write what you know”. It turns out that I know grief well. And so, Mostly Single was born.”