Being a good friend

It’s Friday night and I just got in from a dinner date. I’ve got my Starbucks latte. Leon Bridges is playing softly in the background. I’m relaxed. I’m feeling good. I’m reminded tonight of all the good things in my life.

My friend Bev, I met about a decade ago. We became friends fast. And even though she is albeit older than me (as she likes to remind me), we connected from the get go. We even have our favorite spot that we’ve been going to for the last decade. We meet up on Friday nights, every few months, and catch up on all the gossip.

Sometimes life gets in the way. Sometimes we have to reschedule. But that’s just part of life. Shit happens. But you get over it.

Bev and I finally reconnected tonight at our favorite sushi spot. And we didn’t even mind that the restaurant had doubled the prices on sushi. We just ordered less food. And once again, it was like no time had passed. Even though we didn’t get to sit for as long as we normally do, we enjoyed catching up.

It was Bev who convinced me to start writing again. And it’s Bev fault that I started this blog. She’s been my number one supporter all these years when it comes to writing.

During the day today I thought about what I should write about tonight. Sometimes coming up with a great blog post is difficult. But after my dinner with Bev, as I sat down with my Caramel Latte in Starbucks, it was a no brainer. I hailed a cab and the first thing I did was sit down at the computer.

Friends come and go in your life. But it’s the good ones that you hold onto. The good friends that you can talk to anything about and they will listen without judgement. A good friend will give you advice to help you out in tough times.

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Being a good friend in return can be harder. It’s more than just being a good listener or giving advice. It’s about being there for your friend when they need you.

Being a good friend is being able to pick up where you left off – no matter how much time has passed.

Being a good friend is – sitting down and talking to each other for hours but it feels like only minutes have passed.

Being a good friend is asking how they are and really wanting to know the answer when they give it to you.

Being a good friend doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything. It just means that you should listen to each other with open minds and open hearts.

Being a good friend – is when you make the time to be with them. Even if it’s just a few minutes or coffee.

Being a good friend means being there during the good times – and the bad. 

Being a good friend is letting your friend cry your on shoulder.

Being a good friend is – well, I guess it really isn’t all that difficult when I think about it.

Having good friends in my life has taught me to be a better person and to be a better friend to them when they need me. Bev — thank you for being my friend. I heart you.

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.”  – Unknown


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